The Bamboo Hut

Then, I stopped n wrote this:

There is a concern which hits me with a certain sense of urgency. It is midday and I have suspended my daily activities (bath, eating) to write this:

People fall in love

People fall in love with Other people* (and in some cases with objects, pets blah but that is a topic for later)

When in love, this ‘Other’ becomes so ‘familiar’ that one starts considering this ‘other’ person as ‘mine’(not a very nice thing to do- read on and u would know why). Though the ‘I’ is replaced by ‘us’ and ‘me’ by ‘we’ the basic idea is - the mind ceases to look at this ‘Other’ as someone else and the unit of two becomes one i.e. a Unity is formed (a rare phenomenon)

Now,

This unity may continue: ) or may not continue:(

Though I do not want to dishearten ‘forever in love’ genre but the unity is bound to be broken, in a greater or a shorter duration of time…it is matter of time even as we talk in terms of lifetimes

Why is this unity broken?
The ‘other’ may no longer be the same and is subject to change

The change may be so drastic that even the ‘preferences’ of the other may change. Some changes will disrupt coexistence in unity and these glaring changes compel to Choose, making the difference in preference stand out.

Changed preferences of ‘other’ may make him/her seek unity somewhere else.

When this ‘other’ (presumed to be our own part) moves away from ‘unity’, one might feel that a part of self is gone- therefore the pain of separation

Though over time one realizes that one is still One and not a fraction, even without the Other !

A shift in understanding may bring the realization that the ‘stranger’ which every ‘Other’ is destined to become, is just a reflection of pure unity or purity of self, which expresses independence exclusive of any ‘Other’.
That the other was ‘attraction’ precisely because there was ‘opposition’.

As soon as the opposition is transcended a shift occurs breaking the illusion-change ensues. Other is no longer special but …normal again!

One can now categorically view one self as apart/away from the Other. One gains clarity and familiarity enough to recognize the self away from the other. This is the point where unity was broken, a synthesis and antithesis. The self sees the self as exclusive of the ‘Other’, who was previously essential to bring the realization of a self which was possible only through the presence of a relative existence.
Touch of the Other had brought a body consciousness like never before, bringing a realization of self in a relative opposition, adding to richness of experience(I needn’t elaborate this:) Though dhakkan that an untrained mind is, it eludes itself in to believing that ‘other’ is the self just because the presence/touch of the other sets in the realization of self more acutely. Other was just a relative opposition and a means of realizing what was already there. ‘Other’ was a function in relativity and will fade after the change, the shift

And the shift is bound to occur


And for a rare n few who dare to go further …after a full circle, the search of self within self ensues (internal)

Layer by layer the idea of self is broken carving an anonymous sculpture.
Chisel of practice in the right direction (of a previously scattered mind) breaks the imposed idea of self established by social, political and economic concerns. Functionality sustains but the revelation is also there

Layers of self, established by family, custom and religion are thwarted

Self still seeks self rejecting all false imposed ideas which were ‘collective truths’
Neti Neti

And this is the point when there is no need for the Other. This is also the stage where true companionship is possible because, now, there is no compulsive dependence



# I have talked of a rare situation. Call it rare cause most of the time people feel the emotion for images of people they have created (or worse still, are caught in an arranged institution marring possibilities;) they never know the ‘other’ well enough to take the first step, seeped in assumptions they r living a false life…like a monkey refusing to accept the death of the baby n carrying the body along :( -might not be true in all cases, and to these exception the article is addressed


#If someone feels that these ideas are idiotic, false, imaginary, detached or absurd, abstract, pessimistic or cruel …I empathise. I just said what I felt, you are free to agree/disagree. Also, I could not help the mathematical objectivity/detachment with which I have pointed out things in absolution : ((