The Female Sex
We are different.
Females find a strong expression of their sexuality, independently. Like the phases of the moon they experience a cycle which gives them a stark, blood red, almost painful evidence of their fertility, youth and sexuality every month. Closely linked to their physical and psychological states their menstrual cycle reflects and sometimes governs the female psyche.
With a man, a woman can complement his realization of his sexual (well) being. Men do find an extended, solid expression of their manhood again related to increased blood flow, an orgasmic energy which multiplies tremendously with the female element. This expression intensifies with a stimuli or (semi)voluntary expression. For a female past puberty, the menstrual flow is completely out of control (say involuntary) inescapable period unless under the influence of medication. Their conscious mind, if kept under the shrouds of ignorance may not link it to sexuality in the first place. Yet the influence is there, the sexual state has ensued and the hormones have started moulding the body. Now, with full expression of sexuality at the physical level, lack of sexual expression or a mind yet ignorant of sexual activity will create a split, a duality which is equally difficult for a teenager or a young woman to handle.
It is crucial to understand that a female may or may not find full sexual expression even when with a partner (equally true for a male). Female sexuality is not a mere functional phenomena, and not a purely physical at all levels. Nor is it limited to a set of thrusts which may help a man achieve orgasm, and leave the female still unattended.
Why is ‘she’ so unpredictable, so hard to tame, yet so servile and painfully vulnerable? Why is she so easily damaged, raged, luring and limp? We can retain these questions for later, important questions!
In spite of such a strong self expression of sexuality at the physical level you would find that it is the woman who seeks dependency from men socially and personally, numerous men will testify the latter. It is not just the prominent features like breasts and the monthly discharge which constitute a strong physical expression of female sexuality but also long hair, elaborate decorative dressing and numerous other prominent factors they deliberately shroud themselves with. Why (?). It is as if beauty is directly associated with feminity, as if in beauty they find an expression of their own sexuality, their own feminity, a trait more identifiable with the females than males! Male sexuality finds expression at less physical planes like competence with other males, stamina, endurance and success, power driven social structures like marriage testify this. Unlike the female desire for commitment from the male which has roots in jealously and physical comparison with other females, the male desire for compatibility and commitment from the female is rooted in concerns like security and preservance of social structures like family, fatherhood and inheritance, genealogy. Commitment from a female in such a structure is desirable but commitment to the female is not necessary to preserve the social structure. Prostitutes therefore live on the thresholds of society and barred from social structure or ‘family’. Do these concerns or expectations from a mate drive men away from a complete sexual self expression within marriage? Well, it does. So many will opt for ‘arranged’ marriages and not marry their ‘hot’ girlfriend because it is a question of family now, all men understand this question. Along the same vein, a man too sexually attracted to his wife is a concern for family members and friends, the man should be in control, a married man that is, in context of his wife. He can let the rein loose with another female, therefore may find and desires a self expression outside ‘marriage’. It involves risk but has greater promise, many would venture to take the risk. Does it complicate their life? Yes! And raises moral and financial questions as well, pressure! Nobody likes pressure of this kind.
What happened to the female sex in such a marriage? Did she find security, did she find happiness? Ask her, and she will say ‘yes’ in blissful ignorance :)
Females find a strong expression of their sexuality, independently. Like the phases of the moon they experience a cycle which gives them a stark, blood red, almost painful evidence of their fertility, youth and sexuality every month. Closely linked to their physical and psychological states their menstrual cycle reflects and sometimes governs the female psyche.
With a man, a woman can complement his realization of his sexual (well) being. Men do find an extended, solid expression of their manhood again related to increased blood flow, an orgasmic energy which multiplies tremendously with the female element. This expression intensifies with a stimuli or (semi)voluntary expression. For a female past puberty, the menstrual flow is completely out of control (say involuntary) inescapable period unless under the influence of medication. Their conscious mind, if kept under the shrouds of ignorance may not link it to sexuality in the first place. Yet the influence is there, the sexual state has ensued and the hormones have started moulding the body. Now, with full expression of sexuality at the physical level, lack of sexual expression or a mind yet ignorant of sexual activity will create a split, a duality which is equally difficult for a teenager or a young woman to handle.
It is crucial to understand that a female may or may not find full sexual expression even when with a partner (equally true for a male). Female sexuality is not a mere functional phenomena, and not a purely physical at all levels. Nor is it limited to a set of thrusts which may help a man achieve orgasm, and leave the female still unattended.
Why is ‘she’ so unpredictable, so hard to tame, yet so servile and painfully vulnerable? Why is she so easily damaged, raged, luring and limp? We can retain these questions for later, important questions!
In spite of such a strong self expression of sexuality at the physical level you would find that it is the woman who seeks dependency from men socially and personally, numerous men will testify the latter. It is not just the prominent features like breasts and the monthly discharge which constitute a strong physical expression of female sexuality but also long hair, elaborate decorative dressing and numerous other prominent factors they deliberately shroud themselves with. Why (?). It is as if beauty is directly associated with feminity, as if in beauty they find an expression of their own sexuality, their own feminity, a trait more identifiable with the females than males! Male sexuality finds expression at less physical planes like competence with other males, stamina, endurance and success, power driven social structures like marriage testify this. Unlike the female desire for commitment from the male which has roots in jealously and physical comparison with other females, the male desire for compatibility and commitment from the female is rooted in concerns like security and preservance of social structures like family, fatherhood and inheritance, genealogy. Commitment from a female in such a structure is desirable but commitment to the female is not necessary to preserve the social structure. Prostitutes therefore live on the thresholds of society and barred from social structure or ‘family’. Do these concerns or expectations from a mate drive men away from a complete sexual self expression within marriage? Well, it does. So many will opt for ‘arranged’ marriages and not marry their ‘hot’ girlfriend because it is a question of family now, all men understand this question. Along the same vein, a man too sexually attracted to his wife is a concern for family members and friends, the man should be in control, a married man that is, in context of his wife. He can let the rein loose with another female, therefore may find and desires a self expression outside ‘marriage’. It involves risk but has greater promise, many would venture to take the risk. Does it complicate their life? Yes! And raises moral and financial questions as well, pressure! Nobody likes pressure of this kind.
What happened to the female sex in such a marriage? Did she find security, did she find happiness? Ask her, and she will say ‘yes’ in blissful ignorance :)
posted by Pj at 6:16 AM
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